I feel kinda bad telling people that I had a pain-free, natural birth. Not one… but two even!
It’s like I’m selling contraband.
Stuff like this just doesn’t happen!
I can see the resentment on people’s faces when I mention the words “pain free” and “labor” in the same sentence.
Some laugh. Some scoff. And some don’t believe that it’s possible.
It’s like I’m Carol from that show the Last Man on Earth. But, not quite like her because she had her babies in her sleep. Well, I got one hour of sleep while in labor. But that’s beside the point.
I’m convinced that a pain free labor can happen! Because it happened to me. And I’m not that special, so this must be available for anyone.
The months leading up to labor, I had been taking a childbirth course called Mastering Painfree Childbirth by Karen Welton. She has had two of her own painfree childbirths so it must be possible.
I would say that my first labor was mostly painfree too. There was only one point where I felt like I needed pain relief (read my first birth story).
As someone who grew up in our American culture, I had bought into the lie that birth was traumatic, painful, and downright scary. So, the idea that birth was natural and something you don’t have to be afraid of appealed to me.
I knew there had to be more.
As I read Supernatural Childbirth, I was shocked by how many stories there are of natural, unmedicated, painfree childbirths. Ina May Gaskins guide to childbirth book has many positive birth stories as well.
I started to devour positive, natural childbirth stories.
And now, I am blessed to be able to add my own story to the list.
You interested in painfree labor yet? Are you wondering how on earth it happened? Well here’s my story…
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My Second Natural (and Pain-Free) Birth Story
The day before my due date, I had an appointment at the birth center and found out I was already dilated 3cm. This was encouraging because with my first baby, it took me a whole day of labor to dilate to 1.5cm.
This time around, I had not felt any contractions yet but I was already dilated! I had been feeling Braxton Hicks but that was all.
I asked if the midwife could swipe my membranes (even though it hurt during my first labor), but she said I had too much fluid and the baby wasn’t engaged yet so it wouldn’t do any good.
In a way, I was glad that she couldn’t swipe my membranes because that was the only thing that hurt during my first labor (you can read about it here).
That night, I decided to try eating Chinese food because the spicy Buffalo Wild Wings I had been eating all week just wasn’t putting me into labor this time. So, I called in some General Yao’s chicken for dinner.
I also put some Clary Sage and Clove essential oils on my lower back hoping to kick start labor.
I felt kinda sick from the Chinese food that night. When I laid down to sleep around 11pm, I started having contractions.
This can’t be labor, I thought to myself. I was in denial that It was real labor. They felt like more Braxton Hicks to me. Nevertheless, I decided to time them just in case.
They were 5 min apart.
I had not wanted to wake my husband up because I knew that I would need him later (if it was in fact real labor). But, he’s a light sleeper. The light from my phone and my restlessness must have woken him up
When I told him I was having Braxton Hicks, he said “call the midwife.”
“Really? Do you think I should?” I hesitated.
“Yes!” He said.
I called my midwife and doula. It was around midnight and told them I wanted to rest more before going in. I was still convinced this was going to phase out and I wouldn’t have my baby for another week.
I tried to rest and sleep between contractions. Somehow, I managed to get an hour of sleep. When 4am rolled around, I felt like hopping in the shower which felt amazing. I could no longer talk between contractions at this point.
“We should go in” my husband said.
“Are you sure? I’m doing pretty good. Remember how long it took with Zoey?” I was still in denial that we should go in because I was coping so well with the surges.
“I’ve already packed the car. I think we should go,” he insisted.
I’m glad he did.
When we went in, I was dilated to almost 5cm which was amazing! With our first baby, I went from 5 to 10cm in less than 2 hours.
The same thing happened again.
Laboring at the Spa
For the next two hours, I felt like I was at a spa. My doula rubbed my feet and legs while we listened to spa music. I took another shower with essential oils. It was very relaxing.
The contractions felt intense but not painful.
The midwife had to break my water which (again) felt amaaazing!
Then, it was back in the shower for me. As the hot water pelted my skin, I started feeling the urge to push.
“Now would be the time to get in the tub if you want a water birth” my midwife said, knowing that I had requested another water birth.
“Really? I pushed for two hours last time before getting in the tub. Should I wait awhile?” I was again in denial.
“I think you should get in the tub,” the urgency in my Midwife’s voice made me waddle over to the tub as quickly as I could.
Our baby boy Zach came after only pushing for 30 minutes or so!
The pushing part was harder this time around but only because I didn’t believe what the midwife was telling me that he was almost here.
Then suddenly his head was out!
Another pain free posterior birth story with no back labor! (Read my first birth story). Because I had one moment during my first labor where I felt “pain,” I had brought some homeopathic remedies to help with pain for my second labor.
But, it never even occurred to me to take them because I never felt pain!
Leading up to my second birth, I was praying for a shorter labor and that it would be fun again. I believe in the power of prayer because my labor was a third of the time as my first. And it was fun!
The midwife kept saying that certain parts would hurt like the numbing and stitches, but I didn’t feel a thing. I didn’t even feel the ”ring of fire” this time.
Our Zachariah Kai Bent was born at 8:50am at 20.25” and 7.15 lbs. he is perfect 🙂 God is so good!
I’d love to hear your birth story! Share it in the comments below!