I’ll admit, I screwed it up. Big time! As it turns out, introducing your toddler to your newborn isn’t always as easy and straightforward as it seems. There are a lot of big emotions for such little people.
I thought I had prepared. The big sister bag was packed with a present from the newborn. I had a plan for big sister when I went into labor. And, I read articles about the big introduction and what to say (and what not to say).
But honestly, when that day came and she walked into the delivery room, I froze. Granted, I had just had a baby and was pretty exhausted. But, looking back, there are things I could have prepared for better and things I could have done differently.
Now, I am on a mission to tell every mother pregnant with her second child the Do’s and Don’ts of introducing your toddler to your newborn. Here’s what I learned…
I chose to give birth at a birth center rather than the hospital or a home birth for both of my children. I knew that I didn’t want to give birth in a hospital because I have had some negative experiences in hospitals and knew that I wouldn’t be comfortable to have my children in one. And, I wanted to be able to eat, drink, and move around during labor. My mom had very long labors, so I wanted to be able to move around to get things going as much as possible in the event of a long labor.
With my first birth, my husband and I decided that although we didn’t want a hospital birth, we weren’t comfortable enough to have a home birth. We wanted to be somewhere closer to the hospital in case we needed to transfer. We also wanted the mess of birth to be somewhere else to clean up rather than in our home.
So, off to the birth center we went. We couldn’t have had a more amazing and beautiful experience there. That’s why when we got pregnant again, we decided to go back.
Not long after my husband and I got married, we had a pregnancy scare. Not that it was a “scare” because we always wanted to have kids.
But I was scared.
I was freaked out, in fact. I wanted to have a kid, but I didn’t want to give birth. After I saw that minus sign on the pregnancy test and felt that sweet relief, I knew it was time to educate myself on birth and how to have a good one.
It was time to prepare for labor.
I knew that there had to be some positive experiences out there. But the culture I grew up in had so ingrained in me that birth was scary, painful, and dangerous even. And, there were stories to back this up.
Interview With Business Mom Jill Salzman at The Founding Moms
I am so excited to be starting this interview series Business Mom of the Month! Each month I will be sharing an interview with moms like us who work hard (from home) and mom harder. Working from home can be difficult, but it’s so worth it to stay home with our kids. This month, we’ll be learning from business mom Jill Salzman.
In this series, I’ll be asking work-at-home moms what their secrets are, how they do it, and how you can do it too! I will be interviewing blogging moms and moms who find other creative ways to work from home so we can learn from the best.
I can’t think of a better mom than Jill Salzman to kick start this series. I’ve recently found Jill Salzman and have been getting to know this amazing momma, blogger, and entrepreneur extraordinaire!
When I was pregnant with my first, I remember meeting another pregnant woman who was in her third trimester. I was still early in my first trimester so I asked her if she was feeling excited or nervous preparing for birth.
“Oh, I’m terrified!” She replied.
I was shocked.
Why would you feel terrified of birth?
After all of the reading and studying about the natural process of birth, I didn’t see any reason to be afraid.
I felt sorry for her, but I also didn’t know what to say. As it was my first pregnancy, I had never been through birth to tell her that all her fears were unfounded.
Traveling with kids can be difficult. Especially if you do it alone. Traveling alone with a toddler is never easy. Fortunately, for those who have gone before us, they can offer practical tips and tricks for making the trip easier.
Before my daughter was barely over a year old, we had flown with her twice (each trip nearly 2,000 miles!), and taken one massively long road trip to my sister’s med school graduation.
She has now been on more planes than some adults have been in their entire lives!
I had doulas for both of my births and I loved them! Looking back, I wouldn’t give up having a doula even if you paid me.
This helped especially during my long, marathon first labor.
If it hadn’t been for my doula during that labor, and if I had been in the hospital where different options for pain are available, I may have given up and probably would have ended up with a c-section.
For both births, the doulas helped me cope with the intensity of contractions through various techniques such as changing positions, massage, and verbal affirmations.
You may have read my second birth story here on my blog. But, as with most things in life, there’s always more to the story.
I have recently re-written my birth story adding details such as my experience with placenta encapsulation, how I treated Group B Strep during labor (without the IV), and how my midwife saved me from an emergency C-section.
Tax day is coming up! And, like everyone else, you’re hoping for a refund. Or at least to break even. Even if you have to pay some like we did this year, there are so many fun (paid and free) things to do with your kids.
I’m always looking for ways to spend time with my kiddos that are fun, educational, and don’t break the bank (too much).
I truly believe that making memories and having fun experiences with your kids is more important than buying gifts. Things are great. But, they don’t last forever.