I Became More Intentional With My Kids and These 3 Things Happened

Becoming an Intentional Parent Series Week 1 - Cutting Out Screen Time

We were in the middle of selling our house while beginning building our new home. There were showings nearly every day, my husband was working all day every day, and the roof was being replaced for the buyers. How do you practice intentional parenting in the midst of all of this?

Life was chaos.

It became so easy to plop my kiddos in front of the tv all day while I packed and prepared the house to sell. Let’s be honest, it can be so easy to switch on the tv and let technology babysit.

Then one day, I stopped in the midst of the roofers pounding away. I noticed my daughter staring at the tv even though she could hardly hear with all the noise.

I realized that even when the tv is on, my toddler often runs off to do something else while leaving the tv on in the background. And then proceeds to whine if I go to turn it off.

I thought back on the week at the amount of whining and fussing she had done and wondered if it was related to the amount of screen time.

Read About My Cookie Dough Binge Game on Scary Mommy

22 Times it's OK for Parent's to Binge Eat Cookie Dough

22 Times it’s OK for Parents to Binge Eat Cookie Dough

We all have our ways of self-indulging.

I remember when my daughter was switching from three to two naps. It was awfull! If she didn’t get the third nap in but obviously needed it, then she would only nap riding in the car.

I could have easily gotten frustrated because I couldn’t get anything done driving around every day while she napped.

Instead, I chose to make the best of it. Sure I couldn’t get things done by myself around the house. But, there were other things I could do driving around.

For me, that meant driving to the coffee shop to get a chai tea latte and a cookie. Pretty soon, I was looking forward to driving her to nap if she refused to go down.

It wasn’t every day and I wouldn’t get a cookie every time so there was moderation. But, I learned something important.

You can make the best of any situation.

Even your toddler refusing to nap.

There are other ways I’ve found to indulge and treat myself as a parent over the years. After all, we can’t take care of our kids if we don’t take care of ourselves first.

I recently wrote about a little game I invented for those crazy times in parenthood that you feel like pulling your hair out… or dipping into the cookie dough bowl for sanity.

If you’re wondering what the 22 times are that it’s OK to dip into the cookie dough, then head over to Scary Mommy to find out!


The Kind of Mom I Want to Be

The Kind of Mom I Want to Be

As Mother’s Day approaches and my story was recently published in Chicken Soup for the Soul’s My Amazing Mom Mother’s Day book, I am contemplating what kind of mother I want to be for my daughter.

As with any relationship, the mother-daughter connection ebbs and flows throughout life. There are mountains… and valleys.

Looking back on my relationship with my mother throughout my life, there were times when we spent every spare moment together. We went to concerts, traveled, and hung out together often.

Right now, I am a mother of two myself. Between cooking, cleaning, and caring for two little ones, my time is stretched thin. I hardly have time for a text or phone call, let along face-to-face interaction. I’m finding it difficult to keep up with friends (and family!). As much as I want to, there just isn’t that much time left over to spend with my own mother.