Last year my husband and I bought land to build a new house. It’s taken us a year, but we have finally broken ground! Because we hope to get the house closed in by winter, we plan to move into a 31-foot camper trailer while we build. Moving is no joke, especially moving with young kids.
We may be are insane for doing this but so excited for this next phase of our lives. The 31’ camper has a nice slide-out and is technically wider than our current house (hey one-foot difference counts right?) so I’m hoping that it won’t be too cramped with two kids.
This camper was made with my toddler in mind! It has a bunk bed just like her cousins and a play area underneath with a dry erase board just like the one at home. Talking to her big cousin about the bunk bed made her excited to live there temporarily while the house is built.
Besides, I plan to be spending a lot of time outside with them this summer getting to know our new neighborhood and surrounding area. There will be plenty of new playgrounds, parks, rivers, and a new library to discover.
My goal was to nurse my daughter until she was a year old. Yea that ship sailed a long time ago. We hit our goal. And then some. She is now over two years old and I am happy to announce that it has been over a week since she’s had mommies milkies. She’s a big girl now! Turns out, it’s no easy task to gently wean your toddler!
Nobody tells you that babies don’t just wean themselves. It takes effort, time, and patience. You have to work at it.
For some moms and babies it goes smoothly and easily. But not always. Sometimes (as in my daughter’s case), nursing becomes a habit, and a difficult one to break at that.
Breastfeeding is a team effort. When you want to try and wean, you have to both be ready.
When you have decided to make the leap, there can be a lot to think about. Do you go cold turkey or do you try to wean slowly over time? What drink can you use to replace nursing? What ways can you find to bond with your baby that replace nursing?
I’ll admit, I screwed it up. Big time! As it turns out, introducing your toddler to your newborn isn’t always as easy and straightforward as it seems. There are a lot of big emotions for such little people.
I thought I had prepared. The big sister bag was packed with a present from the newborn. I had a plan for big sister when I went into labor. And, I read articles about the big introduction and what to say (and what not to say).
But honestly, when that day came and she walked into the delivery room, I froze. Granted, I had just had a baby and was pretty exhausted. But, looking back, there are things I could have prepared for better and things I could have done differently.
Now, I am on a mission to tell every mother pregnant with her second child the Do’s and Don’ts of introducing your toddler to your newborn. Here’s what I learned…
I chose to give birth at a birth center rather than the hospital or a home birth for both of my children. I knew that I didn’t want to give birth in a hospital because I have had some negative experiences in hospitals and knew that I wouldn’t be comfortable to have my children in one. And, I wanted to be able to eat, drink, and move around during labor. My mom had very long labors, so I wanted to be able to move around to get things going as much as possible in the event of a long labor.
With my first birth, my husband and I decided that although we didn’t want a hospital birth, we weren’t comfortable enough to have a home birth. We wanted to be somewhere closer to the hospital in case we needed to transfer. We also wanted the mess of birth to be somewhere else to clean up rather than in our home.
So, off to the birth center we went. We couldn’t have had a more amazing and beautiful experience there. That’s why when we got pregnant again, we decided to go back.
Not long after my husband and I got married, we had a pregnancy scare. Not that it was a “scare” because we always wanted to have kids.
But I was scared.
I was freaked out, in fact. I wanted to have a kid, but I didn’t want to give birth. After I saw that minus sign on the pregnancy test and felt that sweet relief, I knew it was time to educate myself on birth and how to have a good one.
It was time to prepare for labor.
I knew that there had to be some positive experiences out there. But the culture I grew up in had so ingrained in me that birth was scary, painful, and dangerous even. And, there were stories to back this up.
Interview With Business Mom Jill Salzman at The Founding Moms
I am so excited to be starting this interview series Business Mom of the Month! Each month I will be sharing an interview with moms like us who work hard (from home) and mom harder. Working from home can be difficult, but it’s so worth it to stay home with our kids. This month, we’ll be learning from business mom Jill Salzman.
In this series, I’ll be asking work-at-home moms what their secrets are, how they do it, and how you can do it too! I will be interviewing blogging moms and moms who find other creative ways to work from home so we can learn from the best.
I can’t think of a better mom than Jill Salzman to kick start this series. I’ve recently found Jill Salzman and have been getting to know this amazing momma, blogger, and entrepreneur extraordinaire!
When I was pregnant with my first, I remember meeting another pregnant woman who was in her third trimester. I was still early in my first trimester so I asked her if she was feeling excited or nervous preparing for birth.
“Oh, I’m terrified!” She replied.
I was shocked.
Why would you feel terrified of birth?
After all of the reading and studying about the natural process of birth, I didn’t see any reason to be afraid.
I felt sorry for her, but I also didn’t know what to say. As it was my first pregnancy, I had never been through birth to tell her that all her fears were unfounded.
Traveling with kids can be difficult. Especially if you do it alone. Traveling alone with a toddler is never easy. Fortunately, for those who have gone before us, they can offer practical tips and tricks for making the trip easier.
Before my daughter was barely over a year old, we had flown with her twice (each trip nearly 2,000 miles!), and taken one massively long road trip to my sister’s med school graduation.
She has now been on more planes than some adults have been in their entire lives!